How To
Tell If Your Partner Is Cheating On You
We hear about it and see it on TV talk shows like Oprah,
Dr. Phil, Ellen, and of course The Jerry Springer Show.
We just hope it will never happen to us.
Cheating is
awful in a relationship. It is devastating and usually
leaves permanent emotional scars if it doesn’t end the
relationship. Unfortunately most partners don’t know
about the cheating until they are told about it by a
caring friend or relative.
Here are some definite signs
that by themselves may not be indicative of cheating,
but together should send off a big warning signal that
something is going on. Recognizing this cheating early
on can save oneself from much heartache and trouble that
will grow the longer it persists.
A sudden increase in late night work outside the home
and travel could indicate your partner is cheating.
It
may just be innocent and maybe they have a new boss,
demanding new clients, or a new demanding project, but
they may also have a sexy new secretary that they are
suddenly paying a lot of attention to. Communication is
the key here, if you have any doubts call them. You
won't know if you don't communicate with them.
Here's a
great tip, if you are feeling doubts tell your partner.
If they aren't cheating they have nothing to be worried
about and they won't get defensive or mad. If you can’t
reach them, they make lots of excuses or they won’t take
your calls then a flag should go up.
Midnight or midday
rendezvous are not inductive to a good relationship and
they cannot hide it forever. No one is perfect, even
international spies make mistakes. Check their clothes
and travel items. Is there an unfamiliar perfume?
Something that doesn't belong? Receipts for possibly
romantic dinners, hotels, lavish or romantic gifts, etc…
(gifts are a huge indicator of cheating).
A sudden decrease in sex drive could mean they are
getting it elsewhere. A temporary reduction in sex drive
could just be related to increased stress or job duties.
It could also indicate medical problems that should be
referred to a doctor. Like prostate or urinary trouble.
But, a sudden decrease in sex drive equipped with sudden
late night work at the office and unexplained receipts
for romantic dinners definitely means something is not
right and should be checked into.
A marked defensiveness and new irritability expressed
towards you. This could be your lover trying to hide
their cheating by them throwing it back at you. “Why
would you even ask or think that? You should trust me
like I do you. Maybe you are the one having an affair.
Where were you last night?”
A new unforeseen
defensiveness in itself is a very strong indicator of
cheating. This defensiveness is almost always present in
cheating. Just watch Dr. Phil, he knows this and asks
the potential cheater why they are so defensive. What do
they have to be so defensive about if there isn't
anything going on?
Also the opposite of this defensiveness could indicate
some infidelity or cheating. Is your partner all of a
sudden being extremely nice to you. Are they buying you
romantic gifts, dinners, flowers, etc… for no apparent
reason you can think of? Is this way out of the norm for
them?
They may be going through feelings of guilt after
infidelity. They may feel guilty for what they have done
and are trying to console their feelings in this way
after the fact. As seen on Oprah, this is a high
indicator that cheating or infidelity has occurred. 95%
of partners that have cheated experience feelings of
guilt and will be extra nice to their spouse after the
infidelity has occurred.
There are other numerous indicators that can be
indicative of infidelity or cheating. These may not in
themselves indicate cheating, but when grouped together,
the more indicators that occur, the more likely some
cheating or infidelity is going on somewhere or has in
the past and your partner may still be trying to cover
it up
David Maillie is Cornell Alumni and award winning writer
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