Is There Such Thing As A Happy Ending
After you have gotten out of a bad relationship it leaves
you questioning lots of things. First off, how did you
end up with that person in the first place? What did you
see that led you to end up with them? If there are no
kids involved it’s easier to walk away and never see the
person again, but kids make it a lot more difficult.
For
better or worse you are stuck having to deal with that
person.
My wife and I were out with a friend and his date
recently and the date was describing her ex as a great
friend. They have three children together. She went on
and on about how they are on the same page about
everything, they just realized they didn’t want to be
married anymore.
Wow, a happy ending with kids, what a
concept. It left me wondering what they’d both find in
the world since they were starting over but leaving
their great friend behind. It’s tough enough to find
someone compatible to be with, if they wind up being
your "great friend” you have hit the jackpot.
No one will ever accuse me and my ex of being great
friends, probably the opposite, so I’m always intrigued
when I hear about the “happy ending”.
Statistically half
of marriages fail, so how many of them end well. If they
ended well divorce attorneys wouldn’t be driving fancy
cars and living in big houses, while their clients
usually lose these items.
When you make the decision to move on in a relationship
it seems like fantasyland to assume that you’ll both
just shake hands and all will be well with the world.
It’s a great goal to shoot for, but more than likely one
of you will be angry or bitter, and you’ll fight over
possessions or custody of children, and being friends
will be the last thing on your mind.
I hope to get there some day but a line that always
seems to ring true for me is from one of my favorite
movies The Shawshank Redemption. Morgan Freeman’s
character says to Tim Robbins character “Hope is a
dangerous thing”. It’s an emotion you have to wait on as
opposed to being able to have some control over it.
You
can spend lots of hours hoping for things and they will
never come. I’d rather do something proactive.
If you are one of those that can walk around feeling
good about how your relationship ended consider yourself
very lucky.
There are a lot of us out there scratching
our heads wondering how the relationship ever started in
the first place, and it’s always refreshing, yet hard to
believe, when someone is boasting about a “happy
ending”.
by George Siegal Copyright 2006 George Siegal
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