Using
Photos in Your Personal Ads
Photo personals are now extremely popular on the web.
When using top internet dating agencies like
Adult-Dating-Sites you will get the opportunity to
post maybe four different photos of yourself along with
your profile for people to see.
If you choose not to
post any photos then generally you will not get many
replies to your ad and you won't be making the most of
your membership.
When you first meet someone you look at their face, you
look into their eyes, you hold their gaze and within a
single second you may have stored 2 million separate
pieces of information about that face.
Instinctively you
will either be drawn to its appearance or not. Much
research tells us that we like symmetrical faces most of
all, but we also take great notice of hair colour,
length, nose, lips, smile and anything else of key
initial importance in judging attraction.
Why then do people find if so hard to post photos of
themselves on their profile? Believe me when I say,
photo personals work! I cannot stress this enough. If
you want to be successful when internet dating then
begin by adding at least a single photo.
Research varies
on actual statistics but generally you can expect to get
up to eight times more replies with a photo than
without. This is because people can see what you look
like and all those who are attracted to you will feel
able to form a link with you and make contact.
It certainly appears to make sense to add a profile
photo but many don't. The reason is often that people
don't view themselves as photogenic. What they mean is
that they don't look attractive in film. Maybe the
camera adds weight to their features or they just don't
like to see themselves as others do. its a self
confidence issue.
The argument goes that they don't have
any nice photos available or the scanner is broken or
they should really get round to scanning some in. The
truth is that they don't like seeing themselves. This
can be rectified by having some nice photos taken by a
professional photographer which can then be scanned in
later.
Another way of solving the problem and keeping the cost
down is to buy a digital camera which you can then use
to take thousands of photos of yourself time after time
until you get the image you like the best.
However if
you do that you should only select the photos that
actually resemble you. I have seen many disasters of
people using internet dating services and misleading
other members by suing photos that were taken 10 years
ago or that aren't a true reflection of them day to day.
This in turn leads to instant disappointment on meeting.
Don't fool yourselves, when internet dating someone may
indeed fall in love with you online and get to know your
personality in depth but the moment you meet, if you
don't look like your photograph it will mean nothing.
People do NOT understand when they feel they have been
misled so capturing someone by using no photo or a photo
that is not a truthful representation is a complete
waste of time. You are underestimating the power of
physical attraction.
Now I don't know how many countless
times I have heard it said by people that they have
learned to look deeper, beyond the outer shell and I am
impressed. But its not entirely true. If someone likes
the look of you, they like the look of you. If they
don't, they won't be interested.
So it is crucial therefore that you use a realistic and
recent photo of yourself that is an accurate and in
focus portrayal of who you are.
Don't even think of
using a photo of someone else because its fake and it
convinces no one. I often see photos of models on the
internet and I know instantly that they are of models.
This means that I am unlikely to contact them. A nice
natural photo of a real girl will attract me to write.
A glamour studio shot won't!
Smiling is critical to the photo you use in your
personal ad and you should always try to present a happy
face. Smouldering and sultry can work too as can moody,
windswept and interesting.
But do give some thought to
the image you want to portray. You are promoting
yourself online so take some care and time to get your
image right. Any old photo to hand may not help you
much.
The photo you post should be a JPG or a BMP file.
Commonly known as a JPEG or Bitmap.
Both are easily
created through standard window camera software and they
don't take up a large file size. However do ensure for
most dating websites that you keep the final resolution
down so that the file is accepted on the website.
Adult-Dating-Site.us for example allows photos of 1000kb
each. If you don't know much about cameras and photo
images, recruit a friend to assist and they can take
some nice shots of you too.
Begin by posting a couple of your favourite photos (no
more than a year old) and see what kind of reaction you
get. If you don't get the reaction you like, change your
photo profile in your personal ad until things change.
Try not to use fuzzy web cam shots if possible and
definitely do not post sexually explicit photos as you
come across in a terrible light - you will look like a
tramp or sleaze merchant. Also be aware that some web
cam images are of a different standard and although they
are listed as JPG files they will not post onto dating
websites.
Look at the photo personals of other people on the
dating site you joined and see if you can match their
style of shot. It will be immediately obvious which ones
work best because you will like to look at them more
than others. I like side profiles with head turned
towards the camera in close up with a nice smile.
It
tells me everything I need to know. As they say - every
picture tells a story.
Here are some tips to remember when using photo
personals and internet dating services:
Always add a photo to your profile
Take a lot of photos and use the best
Buy a digital camera for its versatility and it helps
reduce the cost in the long run. Its fun too.
Ensure the photos are recent
Ensure you are smiling in them or at least presenting
the best image
Try and keep the photo file size down
Ensure the photo is bright and clear
Ensure it is an accurate portrait of you now
Add more than one photo if possible and swap
periodically
Don't add revealing sexy shots
Try and avoid web cam shots which are grainy
If you don't want to use a photo start to think about
your levels of self confidence and appearance and how
things can be altered
Remember that photo personals are very popular
by Yulia Presnukhina
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